Is the American Dream alive or dead? It’s a question that begs asking but more importantly, how can we each, individually carve out our own piece of it if possible?
These are all questions my guest today, Chris Elise, and I address. Chris was born in France and has since become an American citizen following his dreams as a young boy. Today, we talk about channeling anger for productive outcomes, how to develop a personal renewal of faith, why you need to be cautious of betraying yourself, not getting yourself stuck in a bubble, investing in brotherhood, and pursuing your version of the American Dream.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares 5 tips to help you be more intentional with the words you use to become a more effective communicator. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council, the exclusive brotherhood of the Order of Man. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(0:00) Show kick-off⠀
(5:00) I am currently working in the family business but I do not enjoy it or see a future there. Should I switch industries for an uncertain job and possibly have to move in with my wife’s parents, or should I look for another company and start something on the side where I can use my skills?
(11:00) What questions should you ask yourself to determine if you are ready to propose to your girlfriend and move toward marriage?
(16:40) How important is it for you to have a partner that challenges you?
(25:00) How to encourage our wives to work on their mindset around anxiety and depression without giving the impression that we think there is something wrong with them?
(41:00) How do you assess how you are performing in certain areas that are hard to measure?
(49:20) I was looking for a woman who is career oriented but found a great girl who has different goals. Am I sacrificing my standard by going out with this girl or is it ok to compromise on this?
(54:20) Do you have any book recommendations for a season of transition that isn’t to “heavy” reading?
(58:00) Any recommendations for setting boundaries when working from home and trying to be an engaged and involved father?
(1:01:40) Is there a happy medium for sacrificing current comfort for future satisfaction?
(1:07:20) How should I deal with rumors in the workplace that aren’t true?
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As men, we’re hardwired to look for problems we see with the environment around us. Unfortunately, too few of us are willing to take the next step and do something about the issues we identify.
My guest today is not that kind of man. His name is Ian Wendt and he’s taking a stand against some of the most polarizing social issues of the day. Today, Ian and I talk about overcoming the opinions of others, when to compromise and when not to, how excellence is the ultimate rebellion, how a man ought to show up in his community, and, ultimately, becoming a man of conviction.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses why men tend to have an easier time focusing on success in business rather than family and how we can implement some of these “business” systems into our family routine. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council, the exclusive brotherhood of the Order of Man. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(10:40) Is there a way to retain information from podcasts and audio books when I do most of my listening while I am driving and cannot take notes in the moment? Or should I just accept it as entertainment?
(18:00) How do you track how you spend your time, what you are eating, etc.?
(23:40) When my girlfriend informed me that she was pregnant, I reacted poorly. After calming down, I tried to discuss the plan for moving forward but she had already decided to move on from the relationship. I was open to continuing the relationship, but at a minimum want to have a relationship with my son and she is making it very difficult. What is the best way to proceed?
(35:00) What key components have you identified to begin a business? What should you do to be successful?
(43:20) Are you still attending the Baptist church and what difference have you noticed between the Baptist and Mormon church?
(49:20) How much does your faith influence your everyday life and has it grown stronger since you’ve given up alcohol?
(52:40) How do you lead your family spiritually?
(1:01:40) What are some good questions we can ask ourselves to be more effective with journaling?
(1:07:00) After your wife has lost respect for you, can you get it back and how?
Pornography is something that negatively impacts millions of men on a daily basis. And, yet, so few of us know what really goes on behind the scenes of the adult entertainment industry. We hear whisperings of the shadiness and degeneracy, but it continues to permeate just about every fabric of society.
My guest today is Joshua Broome. He is a former adult film star and even named porn star of the year. He spent 6 years in the industry, before fleeing to find himself, warn others about the dangers of pornography, and the message of Christ. Today, we talk about the manipulation that takes place in the porn industry, overcoming the tremendous guilt from poor decisions, how obedience and discipline create freedom, owning your past, lust versus love, and eliminating “contaminants” from our lives.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares the 8 steps that he followed on the path to sobriety. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council, the exclusive brotherhood of the Order of Man. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(0:00) Show kick-off⠀
(10:40) How can I talk to others about my own struggles with alcohol without referring to myself as an alcoholic and wrapping my identity around that label?
(15:00) How do we maintain our masculine frame with our wives, while still being humble and kind?
(33:30) Do you have advice for starting over in a career and being the best I can be? As well as advice for moving my family across the country?
(39:00) Are there things you would advocate not sharing with your spouse or partner?
(45:20) Describe the difference between today’s Ryan and the Ryan from 6 months ago.
(51:00) What do you do when your managers don’t communicate with you until there is a problem and every idea that you pitch them is always answered with a no?
(1:00:00) What are some ways to come up with a business name?
(1:04:40) How do you not take things personally? For example, when an employee leaves my company. And how can I make sure that more employees don’t leave?
(1:12:30) A lot of times guys are looking for a woman who is “like a bro.” Is this a sign of immaturity and what are those men missing out on?
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All of us have dreams and ambitions but too few of us are willing to act towards those desires. And, even if we are, it’s easy to get derailed, distracted, and side-tracked.
My guest today is one of my favorite authors on the planet. His name is Steven Pressfield. He’s the author of The War of Art, Gates of Fire, The Legend of Bagger Vance, and his newest book, a memoir about his life filled with ups and downs, Govt Cheese.
Today, we talk about infusing soul into our work (including a rebuke of AI technology, ChatGPT), the drive to “make the kill,” good versus bad shame, noble obstacles, why being stuck is often a good sign, and putting your ass where your heart wants to be.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares SIX steps to ensure that you are being “vulnerable” in an appropriate and effective way, through taking ACTION. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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Evaluate two things before you share a vulnerability: a) who are you telling and b) why are you telling them
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on your questions from the Iron Council and the Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(3:40) What are your thoughts on overcoming the shame cycle that you can experience when struggling with a habit you want to kick or a limiting belief you hold?
(15:30) Not a question but a best practice that has been impactful for bring my wife closer to me: If your spouse is a 'Words of Affirmation' partner (5 Love Languages), buy some small cards & write notes about why you love and appreciate them & hide them around the house for her to find at a later time. This has been a wonderful way for me to express my love to my wife and a nice surprise for her when she stumbles upon them.
(19:30) How do you get support and feedback from your tribe of men on deep private issues in your relationship while respecting the privacy of your girlfriend/wife and not exposing her personal stuff?
(28:00) I've read extreme ownership and the follow up book is on my book list, but what are some leadership courses or programs that you would recommend?
(33:30) How do you maintain your frame with your spouse, but at the same time, being humble and patient and kind.
(45:40) If you choose to put a man in your circle and he makes a mistake, is it your responsibility to hear him out?
(52:00) What would you say is your biggest insecurity or insecurities that you’re working on?
(58:50) How do you get over a breakup where you sacrificed everything for that person?
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Anger issues are something a lot of us, as men, deal with – more than would like to admit. And, while most of us are pretty good at disguising our anger, frustration, and resentment, all too often, it’s lying just under the surface ready to expose itself to some unexpecting victim – usually the ones we love most.
I’m joined by my friend, Connor Beaton, author of his newest book Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom. Today, we discuss what he calls “dysregulated” or erratic behavior and how to reign it in, overcoming the shadow of our fathers, the danger of self-abusive relationships, and why and how we need to become acquainted with our anger.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares three simple steps to ensure that the legacy we pass on to our sons and daughters is a legacy that we desire and can be proud of. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook group and Iron Council. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(0:00) Episode Intro
(13:00) How do we save our young men and can you paint the picture of the world we live in if we don’t?
(27:20) How do you sift through the huge pile of self help for men and dial in what works best for you?
(32:00) What are some ways to stay motivated and maintain discipline?
(37:50) what tactics do you use to maintain a healthy mindset?
(41:00) Name something from your youth that is not well known but still affects you today. How does it play into your daily life?
(42:40) what is the best way to be a leader when starting at a new company?
(50:00) How do you define good income in today’s economy?
(55:40) How important is it to have men in your corner when you are going through hardship?
(59:20) How can I bring what I teach to my school health classes to more kids?
(1:03:40) How do you convince your family to create a plan for when things get bad?
(1:08:20) How do you get your heart to catch up to your head?
(1:12:00) How do you reconcile the dichotomy of having people you look up to and seeing them deal with their own struggles?
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Our mind is the most powerful thing we can control. And, yet, if you’re anything like me, you don’t spend nearly enough time training the mind to produce the results you desire. In fact, if things don’t seem to be working well in my life, I tend to be a man who just goes even harder hoping I can drive right through the problems I’m dealing with.
Instead, my guest today, Michael Hyatt, makes the case that the stories and narratives (often subconscious) in our minds actually dictate much of the results we experience. So, today, we dive deep into how to retrain the mind to draft stories that serve us rather than hurt us, the value of listening to the “narrator” of your life, why we should all really listen to the language we’re using, how to interrogate the stories of your life, and create a new, fundamental sense of identity.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares a five-part framework for how you can implement systems and processes to supplement discipline and motivation to help you produce the results you desire. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(4:30) How can we have standards but no expectations?
(12:40) What kind of rights of passage can I do with my daughters?
(17:30) I work out 5-6 times a week, drink plenty of water throughout the day, and am very intentional about what I eat. Additionally I get about 7 hours of sleep a night on average. Caffeine intake isn’t insanely high, but I do drink a cup of coffee in the morning and in the afternoon after lunch. That said, I still tend to get pretty tired throughout the day. Any tips on maintaining better energy levels? Maybe some things that work well for you?
(20:40) I have had mentors for most of my life, but occasionally I unplug and get off track a bit. How can I stay plugged in and on the right path?
(30:00) Between Jiu-Jitsu, weight training, and cardio, I am always sore. Will this pain every go away or is this just the cost of trying to get/stay in shape?
(36:00) What is the one thing, or several things, that have surprised you most about your sobriety?
(42:40) Have you seen or heard of some other sources around the internet that promote to help young men?
(52:00) As a single man 28 years old man with no kids and never married what would be your advice on how to prepare for a family and the right woman?
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We all want to lead. But not all of us can do so. Not right now but that doesn’t mean we aren’t capable of becoming the leader we desire to be. My guest today is Brett Bartholomew, a word-class performance coach and he is going to share exactly how we can begin to lead in our families, businesses, and communities more effectively.
Today, we talk about six driving factors of individuals, the four main communication styles and how to use the effectively, how power, influence, and manipulation can be wielded for good, the use of “referent power,” and how leaders play chess, not checkers.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares a four-part framework to help you establish, monitor, and achieve your goals. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on your questions from the Iron Council and Order of Man Facebook group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(1:00) I have perfectionist tendencies. Even as I write this I have erased it three times and 30 times in my head. I know what I need to do but if the circumstances are not perfect I don’t do it. Any suggestions on how to change this?
(19:20) What is the best tip or tool you have for building good habits?
(24:40) For training jiu jitsu, would you recommend doing barbell training or kettlebell training?
(29:00) What tactics do you both use and suggest other men use to discern between truth from error in your life?
(44:00) Do you agree with the statement “your wife is the CEO of your household and you’re the CFO”?
(49:00) How can you maintain forward momentum in a family unit when your spouse refuses to focus on the family and put her career above us?
(1:00:50) How do I start finding a dream/goal when I’m having a really hard time finding a purpose?
(1:11:00) What are a few things that you wish you would have known as a young father AND what advice would you give a younger version of yourself as a young dad?
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As young boys, the world is quite literally our playground. It seems so full of questions waiting to be answered and mysterious places to discover and explore. It’s in our nature to run, jump, play and unlock the secrets that call to us. Then, as we become men, we lose a lot of the natural curiosity and desire to traverse the world around us. The world around us often become more like a jail cell than the playground we remember of our youth.
My guest today is a man who has not lost a bit of the curiosity and excitement of his youth. If anything, he has cultivated it. His name is Danny Bolton. Today, you’re going to hear how to recapture that magic. We talk about how hesitation hurts us, a man’s need to play, creating an enemy to fight against, the analogy of the wolf, sheep, and sheep herder, the power of being ready for anything, and how to tap back into our primal nature.
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In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses SIX keys to effectively navigating work/life integration. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on the hottest questions of the week. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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(5:40) Do you have a faith based goal for 2023? If so how are you choosing to measure this in order to manage it and show progress in an area that sometimes is based more off of feeling or, when tangibly measured, can seem like action without faith?
(19:05) What are your thoughts on compassion fatigue, and what to do to revitalize my passion for mentoring others?
(32:38) I have been seeing someone for 3 months now and we've said we want to be official but she has some bad bf history that is keeping her from doing so (her words). We've had a conversation about it and she has communicated that she's still concerned that i may have some red flags she hasn't seen yet and wont take the next step. It seems the longer she doesn't find something the more certain she is they exist. Most of what she has said she wants seem like what you develop over a year or more relationship. I have been patient as I have dealt with similar stuff myself but I am struggling to not feel the consistent "no not yet" as a form of rejection. its getting to the point that Im losing interest despite her being a wonderful woman with great communication. What can I/we do to work through this before I completely walk away?
(41:10) How do y’all balance the mindsets of competing with yesterday’s version of yourself and competing with others? Do y’all think that these mindsets are at odds with one another or complimentary?
(50:00) How do you disengage from all social media, when most of your friends and family live out of state, and you buy and sell things on FB marketplace all the time?
(55:15) I’m dating a girl, she told me there is another guy she has been dating longer she is might be getting serious with. I told her I didn't really care about her and what other guys are doing - that I am going to keep asking her out as long as I'm single, interested, and she is available. What's your suggestion for keeping my mind off the competition and focused on us?
(1:03:05) I would like to hear more on raising daughters. My oldest is a girl, nearly 11, and my wife and I struggle with how to handle her exposure to things that she isn’t ready for yet. We homeschool her and she is very bright but we’ve caught her on websites that she shouldn’t be on and she has been calling things sexist etc. she doesn’t fully grasp what some of these things mean but I am starting to have deeper conversations with her and my wife on a regular basis. Any other tips would be great!
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Every single day, we’re faced with choices that will either help or hinder us and move us closer to our goals and desires or further away. What we decide in those moments will determine our ultimate results. And, if we’re not satisfied with our current reality, it’s safe to assume that we made choices that did not serve us well.
Today I’m joined by former NFL Super Bowl Champion and Results Coach, Setema Gali to talk about these choices. We also cover the power of decisiveness, making certain that our priorities don’t merely get the leftovers, the level of commitment required to thrive and win, the positive benefits of guilt and shame, the dangers of false humility, and the trap of self-martyrdom and victimization.
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